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Do I or don't I?

Dear Queen,

I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. We broke up once and got back together. Nonetheless it's been good but strained. He has a hard time loving and letting himself open up and be vulnerable. I'm very open and communicative. I also am willing to admit when I'm wrong or have been intentionally hurtful. Well, the point is...I'm pregnant. He's terrified of having a baby. He also isn't fond of the option of abortion. I've been through 4 abortions. I have twins that are 11 that I have raised completely alone. I love them and know how much they changed me for the better. I don't want to have another abortion but I also don't want to raise a baby alone again. I know he would help but I'd still, essentially, be alone. We have 3 weeks left to make this decision.

Signed, heartbroken

Dear heartbroken,

There is only one right thing to do about a baby that you cannot take care of -- you must give it for adoption.

And you really must use birth control.

Probably, caring for this new baby will be too much for you, with your circumstances the way they are. Code: Q75.

The Queen, 1/28/11

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I want another baby.

Dear Queen,

Will I be able to get pregnant again?

Signed, babylove

Dear babylove,

Well, I'm not psychic so I can't see into the future and tell you if you will get pregnant. However, I do know of an old fashioned remedy that involves an easy change in your diet and also your husband must also make the same dietary changes. Please provide me a little more information about your situation so I can determine if it would be an appropriate remedy for you. Code: Q29.

The Queen, 11/5/09

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Finding it difficult to make decision, that will either break my relationship or break my heart.

Dear Queen,

I'm currently pregnant and I think I'm 3-4 weeks and my partner wants me to have an abortion. Or if I don't do it, it's over between us. We have a child which is 4 years and he is scared. He said it's still early. We are not married. I can not go more into details. Please call me so that we can speak. I'm very scared and confused. I really need to talk to someone who does not know me.

Signed, I'm-Pregnant-But

Dear I'm-Pregnant-But,

I will try to help you decide what you should do. Try to calm down so you can think straight. We will figure out a good solution for you. Don't have an abortion before you think it through. I understand the issue with your partner is probably financial.

You didn't tell me where you live and I can figure out from your phone number that you might live in Myanmar, near China. This phone call will cost something for me but nevertheless, I will try to call you later today or tomorrow. However, I think we could first talk by email, if you can, or else on this forum until I have more information to talk to you about. Code: Q6.

The Queen, 6/26/09

Dear I'm-Pregnant-But,

I was hoping you would reply to my post and provide email, since I haven't been able to phone you. With the little information you have given me, the best I can suggest for you: is it possible that you could give your baby up for adoption? Code: Q6.

The Queen, 7/2/09

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